I've been spending lots of time with Susan (she is my sister who cares not to read this blog...it truly is okay (you BIMBO) since her not reading lends itself to her becoming fodder for my blog.
And all the while she is totally unaware that she is subject to scrutiny, one sided opinion(s), the butt of many jokes and so on...tee-hee).
Anyway, since our father has been so ill this past year Susan and I have been pretty much connected at the hip.
The two of us have mostly always been great friends. There were a couple of years when the most contact we had was chasing each other around the house catching the other by the hair..we did always reconnect though, as Marmie had us cleaning piles of our mixed hair from the stairs.
My sister and I share a trait (a quirk? a personality malfunction) which finds us in giddy hysterics at the worst possible time(s).
(Googie has demonstrated symptoms of this same issue)
Susan's quick wit and unique take on the world combined with some serious sleep deprivation can quickly spell disaster..
Or a pretty huge, embarrassingly loud, cackle fest.
This last all- night-er we pulled at the hospital is a stellar example of what I'm talking about.
We'd been at the hospital for hours, maybe 11 or so and our dad had not really gotten much treatment or a firm diagnosis.
Susan and I waited outside his room (really just to gather a breath, it's hard to watch a loved one suffer).
The frustration of the whole situation was forging a destructive path on my emotional well being and I was beginning to show signs of an explosion.
(Think Shirley McClaine's reaction in the movie Terms of Endearment when her dying daughter doesn't get her pain shot in time... see here)
After so many hours had passed and no one seemed to be doing much of anything Susan decided it was time to take matters into her own hands...
"I'll get us some quality help" Susan said.
She held up a pretend microphone and paged us a team of doctors.
"Paging Dr Larry"
We (quietly) laughed so hard I peed my pants and Susan started her trademark "laugh-cry"... she laughed/cried so hard the tears rolled down her face...
Susan put her head down and her whole body shook with her hysterics.
A nurse, sitting at the station across the room took note.
She thought Susan was hysterical for other reasons and came over to calm her.
"We're doing the best we can" she said softly.
Susan caught the quick flowing tears that gathered under her eyes.
She wiped and nodded and bit her lip to keep her composure.
I hid in my sweatshirt neck and breathed my own BO... it worked like a sobering slap in da chops.
Stress relief comes in all forms.
Just sayin yo.